Thankyou so much for this. My boyfriend died two years ago in an accident and was very much around for a while after. I very often have experiences as you have described above..what I have found is many who knew him do not want to to speak his name any more, and a few people, if I mention him, make comments to the effect of how I "havnt let go". It isn't that, its just I know he will always be there..I have said to him to move on if thats the right thing...but how does that work. Am I keeping him bound to this world or holding him back by talking to him?