Not Going to Try Anymore
Dear Mr. Positivity,
I feel stuck in a life that I don’t want to be in. What I mean by that is I don’t want to be on this earth. I am not going to commit suiside, I just don’t want to be here. As for guidance, I wish I knew what my purpose is for this life, I think that is why I feel the way I do about life. The man and people that I live with really bring me down with all the negitive thoughts, actions, and words. I try to tell them that, but it really doesn’t sink in. I have been to church a couple of times, and I really enjoy it, but I get tired really easy. Pluse I have Lupus, and other health problems that contribute to these feelings. Plus financial problems. I am waiting on social securith disibility and just found out that I have to wait 12 to 18 months just to get a hearing date. I am sorry burben you with my stuff. Thanks for the ear. If, you could just keep me in your prayers that would be great. Thanks for listening.
Doreen
Dear Doreen,
I am glad to hear that you aren’t contemplating suicide as an answer, but am disheartened to hear that you feel as you do about your life.
I believe your desire not to be of this earthly realm is really a desire to escape the “negativity” and “hardships” you have faced or are facing. It is true that the people you surround yourself with ultimately play a role on your outlook, feelings, and overall life experience; however, you can change those that you surround yourself with to those that align themselves with positive thoughts.
I believe that some of us go through seemingly harsher experiences so that we can better aide those around us. We become better teachers, guides, and friends when we allow our experiences to empower and not hinder us.
It is easy to give up and feel like the world and everyone in it is out to get you. This is the reason a lot of people take this route because it’s easy, though, the feelings that one has because of choosing this route is far more difficult to handle.
Taking a seemingly negative experience and turning it into a positive is not always easy, but I assure you it will drastically change how you feel about your life, how you see yourself, and will ultimately change your reality.
If you enjoy going to Church then do it at least once or twice a week, is that doable? Do not sacrifice the things in life that bring you Joy — How would you ever find happiness or purpose if you denied yourself these things?
Did you know our negative perceptions play a role in our physical health? Did you know that such negative perceptions allow in fear, self defeating thoughts, depression, and more?! YUCK, right?
Doreen, I want to help you by first enabling you to see the positive instead of the negative. In order to do this, get a piece of paper, and write down all the “negative” experiences that you have called forth in your life. Then, the hard part, find the positive that came from each negative experience — trust me, there is a positive to every negative. Once you have the positive, shift your focus to that positive — so that when you think of a particular experience you think of the positive that it gave you. Instead, of seeing the negative.
Ultimately, your view on life will shift to a positive one and I am willing to bet that your health will improve and you will find yourself feeling more energized.
Sincerely,
Mr. Positivity