Many people come to me and complain that life is too complicated. That they never feel like anything is going right. That as hard as they try to fix a situation it remains unresolved.  Blah, Blah, Blah, … you get the picture as we all have felt this way a time or two – some more frequent than others.

I can understand, appreciate, and even empathize where their frustration and disappointment is coming from; yet, my answer, no matter the excuse, seems to be – “Get out of your own way.”

Our human conditioning tells us that we need to do this, this, and this in order to get a particular result. It also tells us that we need this, this, and this in order to sustain a job, a house, a car, support a family, etc.

You’ve probably never really noticed the dictatorship of the democracy that we live in because it’s so ingrained into our society. For example, as a child, many of us were told you need to go to school, get good grades, go to college, get better grades, get a degree, get a high paying job, buy nice things, etc. Yet, I can tell you many success stories where people went against this dictatorship mentality and have become some of the wealthiest people in the world.

So what’s the truth?

Well, honestly, the truth varies from person to person, experience to experience; however, there are a few core factors that remain the same.

The Universe is an ever flowing constantly expanding energy stream – the river of creation (or as I call it the Lifestream of Consciousness the Bloodforce of God). Within this lifestream is never ending possibilities and constant creation opportunities. It’s like the chocolate river in Wonka’s factory – a constant source for inspiration, intention, and creation.

Sounds good doesn’t it?

What happens as physical beings is that we have become wrapped up in our own side quests – so to speak. You know the things society tells us we need to live a successful, happy, healthy life. It creates the Go, Go, Go mentality and there is never time to stop and enjoy the beauty that surrounds you or more importantly the beauty that IS YOU.

As we strive to create the perfect life we often feel as though we are missing something of value. Here is why … Societies idealistic image of a perfect life isn’t necessarily a life worth living but a life trying to make a living. So, this leaves us with the sense of feeling incomplete because to our spirit our life hasn’t taken on any real value because we haven’t seen our worth yet.

It is through our deepest and “darkest” moments of life that the greatest blessings and treasures emerge – if we choose to be aware of them.  We also when looking back at the scenario or experience need to remember the blessing that happened because of the experience – everything happens for a reason.

It is not for a rational mind to question the vastness and depths of the Universe because in the third dimension of reality we simply cannot fathom the reasoning but they do eventually unfold to our AH-HA MOMENT.

Far to many people, choose to see complication rather than opportunity. For example, in your car ride on the way to work you hit traffic – use this time to relax, unwind, enjoy your cup of coffee, and be at peace with the Universe. After all, it was the universe the created the traffic jam – yes? So, while it may be easier to get frustrated, angry, and downright miserable it is also easy to shift your perception of the reality which will ultimately shift the course of the day.

Within parenting it is easier just to do it for your child; many parents do this instead of allowing your child to find their own answer. In a lot of ways, this is blocking them from their divine connection to Universal Source…it’s what blocked you.

We are far too busy being in a rush to nowhere – we plan out the day like a mission.

1. Wake up
2. Brew Coffee or Tea
3. Set out clothes
4. Shower
5. Get Dressed
6. Drink Coffee or Tea
7. Eat Breakfast
8. Brush Teeth, Comb Hair
9. Go to work
10. Run Errands
11. Come Home
12. Make dinner
13. Eat Dinner
14. Do Dishes
15. Help Children with Homework
16. Tuck kids in bed
17. Watch TV

Of course, there are things that get added into this mixture of chaos that cause even more stress and anxiety. Then we start saying things like “There is only one of me.” Or “There are only so many hours in a day.”

This becomes the robotic nature of our human experience because we allow it to be this way. We have been conditioned to be, think, and act this way.

If something gets thrown in the mix – What happens?

Anxiety, pressure, stress – you begin to feel that lack of control – when in truth you didn’t have control in the first place.

We have a difficult time surrendering to the UNKOWN – it’s a variable that many choose not to take a gamble on. However, if I were to tell you that if you were to embrace that which is UNKOWN you would reap high paying rewards (not necessarily monetary in nature) – would you take the gamble? Probably not, right because you don’t have that guarantee; however, there are no guarantee’s in life you hear that over and over again.

I disagree … I guarantee that if you do not participate and put yourself out there you will never experience that which you want to create. Bill Gates, Donald Trump, Martha Stewart, Oprah Winfrey – do you not think they stepped into the UNKOWN … took a chance at life?

OF COURSE THEY DID … AND WHERE ARE THEY NOW??

Can you imagine if J.K Rowling didn’t take a chance at authoring a book – the world would be without Harry Potter which has become ingrained into our history as it affected men, women, and children alike – it is a phenomenon! It also allowed up and coming actors and actresses to star in a leading role in a blockbuster movie

How many of you don’t do the things you enjoy because you don’t think you can afford it?

Have you ever spent money that you felt you didn’t have and more money came in? What we give to another we give to our self – so why not be generous??!!

If we do not participate in the exchange of energy (money, emotions, etc.) we cannot receive them back.

Life becomes complicated when we go against the flow — the grain of creation.

So today, participate! Let me know, if this helps uncomplicate your life.

Ego Driven World
Dear Beautiful Souls,

Ah Ha! Well don’t just stand there … come in … come in!

I want you to listen very carefully as the information you are about to receive is transformational and your life will no longer be the same.

Everything around you is energy and has a vibration, a tone, a frequency that all connect and interconnect with the galactic harmony of the universe.

Your physical body is comprised of many of these energy atoms vibrating at a frequency so that a human eye can recognize the illusion. The illusion of the third dimension or physical plane is essential to your Life Experience.

Where you originate from is filled with many dimensions and within it many worlds or realities — this physical plane is a recreation of one of those dimensions similar to one in the Astral Plane.

Are you aware, my friend, that you have chosen to be here — in this dimension — at this very time and place for a reason. Oh, it’s more than a reason, it’s a calling to a particular stream of lessons that you wanted to learn.

Moreover, you have chosen to experience many things — including hardships, but when you became encompassed by the physical illusion you have lost all recollection of this. The reason for this is so that you can live — fully absorbed and involved in this dimension.

Like a engine inside of a car — your spirit — is the driving force behind this physical manifestation of yourself. However, just like an engine you have to work with a series of other systems within this realm; EGO and EMOTIONS.

This system of EGO, EMOTIONS, and SPIRIT — serve as a system of checks and balances. It is your job to keep the harmony and learn how to live from Spirit while acknowledging the existence of the other two systems.

Often, what happens in this realm is that EGO dominates and becomes sort of the auto-pilot that now drives the car. Now, like a driver, you have engaged auto-pilot and allowed EGO to steer the course of your life.

Don’t feel bad or inferior about this choice because many do it. However, we now get to the real reason you are here — TO RESUME CONTROL.

In order to do this, one must first recognize the presence of EGO in their life and acknowledge the part it plays. It is important at this juncture not to play down the role for in order to truly transform you must acknowledge the speed at which EGO is driving.

What is it that drives EGO?

Self Gratification, Physical and Worldly Possessions, a Fear Based Reality, etc.

These are all things that you have come to know and undoubtedly become “attached” to. You have come to create a system by which you judge and measure your success by these attributes of EGO.

Let us look at the impoverish state in which Jesus lived. He did not live in mansions, have a lavish lifestyle filled with luxuries, nor did he judge another human being for their race/religion/sexual preference, etc.

Yet, many argue, that Jesus was wealthy but this wealth they speak of it is of a Spiritual nature! A wealth that cannot be measured in the physical sense …. Jesus was driven by his heart and left nobody behind.

Let us think on that for a moment — Jesus lived from his heart. What is the function of the human heart? To pump the glorious essence of life throughout the physical body. It is also associated with emotions of compassion, love, and even forgiveness.

These sound like attributes of Spirit…

So, in can then be said that Jesus was driven by what? HIS SPIRIT! Jesus truly lived the life you aspire to live — one from Spirit!

He had a Divine UNDERSTANDING of the inner workings of this world and had the knowledge of Spirit. At no point did he surrender the wheel of the car to EGO…he remained the driver no matter how difficult or tired it became physically, mentally, or emotionally.

Are you understanding, now? Are you seeing the error in the ways of Mankind?

Mankind through EGO has assumed the role of the creator — or so they believe. With weapons called “WEAPONS OF MASS DESTRUCTION”, WAR, RELIGIOUS PERSECUTION, DESTRUCTION OF NATURE (RAIN FOREST, OCEANS, WOODS), CREATION OF SMOG, GLOBAL WARMING; NEED I GO ON?

Do you see what a world driven by EGO has yielded you?

YOU are here because you seek change through enlightenment.

Your challenge now, if you choose to accept it is … The Spirits Mutiny of Ego.

This is a Spiritual overhaul of everything you have ever been taught by those in the physical. Your system of thought, your beliefs, etc….all will be challenged…

Are you ready for such an undertaking?

Hello, Dear Friends;

Many of us have asked the question; “Who am I?”

Here is the answer … I hope it helps.

You are source energy — Spirit — in this physical form. Source energy is LOVE — present and flowing as a positive loving stream of consciousness and constant creation.

Your physical body doesn’t “trap” or “contain” your Spirit because you expand beyond the confines of your body.

Now, let me explain, SOURCE ENERGY IS GOD ENERGY … YOU ARE A PHYSICAL EMBODIMENT OF GOD ENERGY THAT IS CREATING A LIFE BASED ON UNIVERSAL LAWS.

No/body is above you or below you as you all are the existence of this energy that exists beyond you!

Entering into Physical awareness causes Spiritual Amnesia — whereby we forget or feel disconnected from source. However, the connection is always there and will always be there we have to just remember it.

Are you beginning to remember??

While here in the physical we (allow ourselves to) feel limited. In the physical existence we feel different and we see differently because we have allowed ourselves to do so.

Imagine if you will, a table before you with two pair of glasses on it. One would allow you to see as GOD ENERGY SEES … The other will allow you to see as the Physical Third Dimension of Consciousness SEES. Which pair would you pick up?

Of course, you’d say the first pair — God Energy’s Eyes.

Ladies and Gentleman, this is a choice — YOU HAVE THE ABILITY TO SEE AS GOD ENERGY DOES! FOR YOU ARE GOD ENERGY.

You probably wouldn’t have to think twice about the choice either.

Here comes the problem — for centuries we have allowed ourselves to place SPIRIT and GOD outside ourselves. We have allowed ourselves to see differences, complications, hardships, etc. And because of that it’s hard to swallow that life could be positive, loving, and easy.

Truth is, it can be with just a matter of shifting the way we see things and the way we respond to things.

The TRUTH of YOUR PHYSICALITY!

You and the life you are creating is a direct reflection of your thoughts and projection of them.

Think about it for a moment — If you were to look in the mirror and see something you disliked about yourself for example weight. When you look in the mirror you see a weight issue and as a result you feel fat and horrible about yourself. Your self esteem drops etc.

Reverse: If you were to look in the mirror and say “God I look good.” How will you feel? How will your body respond to that? Your self esteem will surely rise.

It’s probably true that from the moment you came into this world and began aging the limitations started flowing from your parents. Now, don’t fault them as it’s a learned behavior — it’s generational.

I can remember expressing different dreams about my adult life to my adoptive parents and they said, “That’s nice.” (an effort to appease me) or “Get your head out of the clouds.”

If I were a “normal” boy, I would have listened and thus allowed someone else to set a limit for me.

I’m sure you can think of several times growing up and several scenario’s where someone else limited your “potential reality”.

But, YOU ARE SOURCE … THAT CANNOT BE LIMITED. ONLY BY YOU ALLOWING A LIMIT TO BE PLACED WILL YOU BELIEVE THAT YOU CANNOT ACHIEVE ANYTHING HIGHER.

THERE IS NO/THING IN LIFE THAT IS BEYOND YOUR REACH — YOU ARE CREATING IT.

(I hear the moans, “Easier said that done”)

AHAHA…If one starts with a negative thought they will get a negative result. By turning the negative into a positive we shift our thoughts and alter our outcome — it is only difficult if we allow it to be difficult.

Too many people are looking at a life of someone who has money going … “I wish …” or “Why can’t that happen to me …”

IT CAN … IF YOU ALLOW IT INTO YOUR VIBRATIONAL ENERGY …

You have to break away from the teachings of the physical and remember the Spiritual.

Essentially you have two dynamics of SELF while here in the physical. You have SOURCE ENERGY and PHYSICAL EMBODIMENT.

It’s your choice which becomes the primary in your life. The goal is to get both SOURCE ENERGY and the PHYSICAL BODY — VIBRATING AT THE SAME LEVEL.

So basically, you need to bring your physical body up to the vibration of GOD SOURCE ENERGY … and lock it in

Make sense thus far?

Have you ever heard that age old expression of, “He/She must have gotten up on the wrong side of the bed,”?

Of course, you have! Heck, in fact, I’m sure all of have all been that person being spoken about. Yet, when we refer to another in that manner we often forget what that day was like.

Let me recap:

Perhaps the night before there was an argument with a spouse and both went to bed facing the opposite ways unwilling to resolve the issue prior to bed. (Not exactly setting a mood for a positive wake up)

So, you wake up already miserable because it carried over from the previous night. You hop in the shower and before you get done the water runs cold — so you have to cut it short. You decide to pop a bagel in the toaster and continue getting ready — the bagel gets burned. You look for your coffee flask but cannot find it — so you decide to grab a cup on the go. If you have children that you are needing to get out of bed — perhaps one refuses to move … slowing your day down a bit. So, on your way to work, you stop off at your favorite coffee shop to get a coffee … you put it in the holder and continue your drive to work. You notice that you are hitting every RED light possible and your running late as it is … At a light, you decide its safe to take a sip of coffee and as you do it turns green so you GAS IT … and hit a pot hole that you didn’t notice causing your coffee to spill on your newly pressed shirt.

Sound Familiar?? Remember, the tension building as the day progressed .. it just kept on going in this fashion.

Let’s look at what happened to cause this … How did you manifest such a negative day???

It’s simple really .. let’s start with the night before. You went to bed angry, negative, and probably hurt due to the argument with your spouse. You probably tossed and turned throughout the night and woke up in a miserable mood.

You started manifesting your tomorrow the night before … prior to going to sleep. When I do Light Coaching for people, I often help them understand the importance of a good nights rest and going to bed positive, relaxed, and when they wake up — they are POSITIVE AND RELAXED … easier to create a worthwhile day from that standpoint.

It’s not impossible to turn the other day around but to do so requires altering your thoughts and the way your responding to the day. Example, imagine spilling your coffee and laughing about it — brush it off. Day’s getting better, right?

The issue with the third dimension reality of consciousness is we think we need to react and respond certain ways to certain situations. So, we do so accordingly. If someone saw you spill coffee on yourself — they might laugh, right? Have you ever watched someone take a drink and miss their mouth?? It’s funny right? Aren’t you thinking “You don’t know where your mouth is? You’ve had it long enough?”

Life can be filled with positivity and laughter but it’s up to you to make it happen. Your day is a direct reflection of your thoughts … So, if your day isn’t going quite right tweak your thoughts and tweak your day.

Here is an easy list:

1. Set the intention of your tomorrow the night before

2. Settle any and all disputes prior to heading to bed (what are you really arguing about?? Who did the dishes, who cleaned the house last, who’s not cleaning, etc. PHYSICAL THINGS … that in all honestly seem REALLY important at the time but in the grand scheme of things aren’t … SO SETTLE IT…)

3. Start your day and end your day with an Affirmation of your choosing … something to help set the tone … use it throughout the day to RESET your day if you need to.

4. When you think a “negative” thought … Catch yourself, stop, and reverse it to it’s polar opposite. Example, “I’m a horrible person.” becomes “I’m an amazing person.”

5. Don’t be afraid to LAUGH when seemingly negative things happen.

6. ENJOY THE DAY … AFTER ALL YOUR CREATING IT.

In Love and Light,

William

Journey Back to Source:

A Review of “Chants of a Lifetime”

“Chants of a Lifetime,” by Krishna Das, is a transformational story – a story of loss, a quest for love, the love of song,  projections, and the unity of the interconnectedness of us all.

When we find someone we love and care about, a spiritual teacher, of sorts – someone we look up to; we feel connected, loved, and valued. It gives us a sense of belonging and being, and for many a sense of purpose. When we lose someone that we value so much it appears as though our world is crashing down around us. Krishna Das, a student of Yogi Neem Karoli Baba (also known as Maharaji-ji), found himself at that very place when his spiritual teacher passed on from this world.

During his time with Neem Karoli Baba, Krishna, discovered the power of Kirtan –singing the names of God– and within it a divine love.  He felt alive, radiant, and vibrant in front of his host as he was being seen for the first time in his life through the eyes of love.

Those who know the depths of unconditional love – divine love – know the look expressed and feelings felt when someone truly sees you. Not for what you believe yourself to be, not for what others perceive you to be, but for who you truly are!

Maharji-ji’s transition from this world left Krishna feeling not only the grief and anguish from such a loss, but from loss of such a love as well. It put his entire existence back to square one – prior, to meeting Maharji-ji – or so he thought.

As I read, of Krishna’s loss, I was reminded of when my grandparents made the transition. For me, they were more than grandparents, they were at one point in time my foster parents and I loved them, as Krishna loved Maharji-ji. So, I understood, what it was like to have someone so loved, admired, and iconic make the transition to the non-physical reality. I knew the sense of loneliness he felt and how his world appeared to have shattered in a matter of fleeting moments.

Krishna’s loss sent him on a journey of self discovery and a journey to bring the love and meaning back to his chants – returning his purpose back to his life.

He would discover that he was the divine love that he projected on his “guru”, Maharji-ji, and that the love he felt from a glance from his teacher was the acknowledgement of the love residing within him. That his chanting carried for many the expression of divine love, understanding, and appreciation – it brought validation to those in attendance.

As, I sat and read, I continuously played the CD that is included with the book as a way to immerse myself in the story – it WORKED! In fact, I highly recommend it, that way you are taking the journey with Krishna and not simply reading about it.

At the end of the book, I couldn’t help but feel like, Maharji-ji’s final teachings came on Krishna’s journey back to source! When your loss is so great that it causes you to question everything – your existence, your purpose, your beliefs – so much so that you feel beyond hope stuck in a pit of despair if you explore that it will yield the ripest, tastiest, fruits that you could ever imagine.

The loss of my grandparents did that for me – shook me at the very core of my being – and my own personal journey began. It’s as though; through great loss we discover great truths.

I recommend relating the story to your life as you have lived it thus far – and you too will go on an incredible inward journey.

Through this epic journey you will be touched by life’s uncertainty and overwhelmed by endless love. Life’s journey takes on a whole new meaning when you realize that you are cradled in the gentle, caring hands of source and that through you divine love can be expressed. And when you release all that you have learned about the third dimension of reality – the physical – you will see the interconnectedness of us all through the eyes of love – through the eyes of source.

This is the journey taken in “Chants of a Lifetime,” by Krishna Das and this too will be your journey as you read effortlessly through the pages.

You can purchase the book by going to Amazon, Barnes & Noble, or Hay House to purchase your own copy.

To learn more about Krishna Das, visit his webiste

Dear Friend,

WOW! On Saturday, I received a mysterious package in the mail. The reason I say “mysterious” is because I wasn’t expecting a package.

We, Joy and I, were on way to the beach as it was glorious Florida weather. We decided to stop by our mailbox on the way out — we were surprised to see a notice stating that I had a package in the office for me.

Joy ran into the office and grabbed a envelope style package (big enough for a book). She got into the car and says, “It’s from Hay House!” As she proceeded to open it … I couldn’t help but smile at her excitement. She pulls out a nicely folded white piece of paper…and reads;

“Dear William,

Welcome to the Hay House New Release Reviewers program!

While reviewing your blog, we felt that your audience may enjoy reading about the following upcoming releases….”

Upon hearing that my face, lit up as well! When Joy was done reading the letter she pulled out a beautiful book entitled, “Chants of a Lifetime,” by Krishna Das which according to the letter is scheduled to be released February 9, 2010.

I started reading the book yesterday and am finding it a wonderful read. I cannot wait to finish and share my thoughts in a my FIRST review of a Hay House book.

Dear Mr. Positivity,

I feel stuck in a life that I don’t want to be in. What I mean by that is I don’t want to be on this earth. I am not going to commit suiside, I just don’t want to be here. As for guidance, I wish I knew what my purpose is for this life, I think that is why I feel the way I do about life. The man and people that I live with really bring me down with all the negitive thoughts, actions, and words. I try to tell them that, but it really doesn’t sink in. I have been to church a couple of times, and I really enjoy it, but I get tired really easy. Pluse I have Lupus, and other health problems that contribute to these feelings. Plus financial problems. I am waiting on social securith disibility and just found out that I have to wait 12 to 18 months just to get a hearing date. I am sorry burben you with my stuff. Thanks for the ear. If, you could just keep me in your prayers that would be great. Thanks for listening.

Doreen

Dear Doreen,

I am glad to hear that you aren’t contemplating suicide as an answer, but am disheartened to hear that you feel as you do about your life.

I believe your desire not to be of this earthly realm is really a desire to escape the “negativity” and “hardships” you have faced or are facing. It is true that the people you surround yourself with ultimately play a role on your outlook, feelings, and overall life experience; however, you can change those that you surround yourself with to those that align themselves with positive thoughts.

I believe that some of us go through seemingly harsher experiences so that we can better aide those around us. We become better teachers, guides, and friends when we allow our experiences to empower and not hinder us.

It is easy to give up and feel like the world and everyone in it is out to get you. This is the reason a lot of people take this route because it’s easy, though, the feelings that one has because of choosing this route is far more difficult to handle.

Taking a seemingly negative experience and turning it into a positive is not always easy, but I assure you it will drastically change how you feel about your life, how you see yourself, and will ultimately change your reality.

If you enjoy going to Church then do it at least once or twice a week, is that doable? Do not sacrifice the things in life that bring you Joy — How would you ever find happiness or purpose if you denied yourself these things?

Did you know our negative perceptions play a role in our physical health? Did you know that such negative perceptions allow in fear, self defeating thoughts, depression, and more?! YUCK, right?

Doreen, I want to help you by first enabling you to see the positive instead of the negative. In order to do this, get a piece of paper, and write down all the “negative” experiences that you have called forth in your life. Then, the hard part, find the positive that came from each negative experience — trust me, there is a positive to every negative. Once you have the positive, shift your focus to that positive — so that when you think of a particular experience you think of the positive that it gave you. Instead, of seeing the negative.

Ultimately, your view on life will shift to a positive one and I am willing to bet that your health will improve and you will find yourself feeling more energized.

Sincerely,
Mr. Positivity

Dear Mr. Positivity,

How can I better serve Spirit and my own community?

Thanks,
Havensnook

You’ll be happy to know that by serving one you serve the other

If one finds themselves on a path of love, light, understanding, compassion, etc. they are undoubtedly serving Spirit. Furthermore, if you find yourself serving others by offering yourself to them (humor, a listening ear, compassion, love, support, understanding, forgiveness, etc) you are serving Spirit.

Moreover, if you are doing the above things then you are better serving your community. And when you are in service you are spiritually rewarded 1 million fold…

Happy to Serve,
Mr. Positivity

Dear Mr. Positivity,

This is a rather small issue but will have an effect on what happens in my life..

You know I am going through a divorce, we have had mediation and a lot of issues have been settled… (sort of)

He wanted to have it right before his open heart surgery because who he is having an affair with came to his surgery and stayed with him at the hospital. She met my boys and I didn’t get to even go see him because of that. I am not sure how I will react to her when I see her and didn’t want to cause any “drama.”

I was a difficult week, to say the least…

His doctor ordered him to go straight home, he didn’t want him to go up his stairs (I actually offered for him to stay here) and to go to bed and rest. On his way home from the hospital he insisted his mother stop at 2 stores and he insisted he go in and get what he needed.

He was told to be off work for apx. 6 weeks. The next morning… (he left the hospital after 5pm on Monday) Tuesday morning… he has one of his “friends” drive him to work… so he worked.. and today… he was working again.. all I can tell him is.. he is nuts… as he is fussing me out.. I say.. “I’m sorry I am worried about your health and not money.”

When he talked to me after his surgery.. he waited 2 days… He made sure he was alone, since I had tried to call him and he wouldn’t pick up.. But he acted pitiful and told me all that was wrong and I told him what needed to be done what meds he needed to ask for and all.. told him if I were there… he knew I would have made sure things were done right.. he said.. “I Know.” Then I offered for him to stay here… whatever… he acted like he wanted to and told me he would call me back. After that… he has been nasty to me.. fussed me out, crazy things… I just said.. “whatever Ben, I will talk to you later.”

So this morning he asks me for his executive resume, that I made, no help from him….and no thank you..
People pay 1 or 2 thousand to get these done.. It takes a while to get it all together and write it all professionally. His boss has copies, his friend has copies.. if they know where they are… he has copies… but he tells me to get it for him that he needed it this morning and his passport…

I have had to hide my portable hard drives because he has tried to take my things many times, and I have a lot of work and photos and software on there.. I was pretty sure it was on there but I had to locate where “I” hid my hard drive, (lol) and then locate it on there…

Like I said… he’s been talking to me very rude.. Until he wants something from me.

He has lied to me non-stop.. he opened his mouth… I knew a lie was coming… (yes, he has an issue with it) I told him I had a copy of his passport and I’d be glad to give that to him. He didn’t order, nor pay for his passport.. He didn’t want the copy, he said it wouldn’t work. I told him his “story” made no sense and if I were to help him, he needed to treat this like a business at the least and not be rude to me. He still wouldn’t tell me what was going on… at least anything that made any sense at all.

I’m not a mean person and usually just give him whatever he needs to keep peace.. to.. just not be yelled at.. but wonder if this is just laying the groundwork for him to continue to disrespect me in such a manner.. I can’t recall him actually doing much of anything I asked, ever.

Last week… he (very sarcastically) thanked me for getting all of the paperwork together for the divorce for him, since now he doesn’t have much to do. All I said was.. “well, I usually am the one that does all of the paperwork while you play..”.

What do you think?

Sincerely,
Ms. No Drama Please

Your ex or so to be ex is an ex for a reason It is very important to realize that.

It appears to me that you both don’t really know how to let go. He wants his cake and to eat it too. Another words, he knows you still love and care about him and is using that to his advantage, and for all intense and purposes your are allowing this to happen.

What I see here is a woman who is codependent — you are trying to hang on to a man who is blatantly having an affair and manipulating you to do what he wants. You are obliging because I believe it is habitual for you to do so — your need to please.

I understand that as the father of your children, you will ALWAYS care about him, but you cannot continue to expose yourself to his abuse of your caring. You have become so used to this treatment that you allow him to walk all over you and still continue to want to do right by him — very noble, but you aren’t being appreciated. You are being abused and manipulated…and allowing yourself to be.

When he is being rude to you … I would venture to guess that you are passive and don’t stand up for yourself. Instead, you keep giving and giving as you have done in the marriage — yet, your marriage and giving nature haven’t prevented a divorce. He is obviously a taker and I would guess he isn’t sure what he wants…

You need to let go. It’s okay to care about him, but not to the point of putting your own happiness at risk. He has his other half, but is keeping you close so that you still feel connected so that you won’t allow yourself to find yours.

Stand up for yourself, Ms. No Drama Please . Your very name, Ms. No Drama Please, indicates that you wish to experience no drama, but who is it that is allowing the Drama to flow into your life? By not standing up for yourself and being passive you are enabling him to continue to treat you like “crap”.

He cheated on you which means he didn’t respect you enough as a person to let you know he fell in love with another woman. He didn’t wait to bed her down – he was trying to have both and, frankly, still is in many aspects.

Isn’t it time to take control of your life? That isn’t going to happen by surrendering control to him … you need to take the wheel and step on the gas … getting far away from him.

You have daughters, yes? You wouldn’t want them to think that this treatment is acceptable, right? I’m sure if someone was treating them this way you would turn into a tigress and defend them! Do the same for yourself!

You are in pieces at the moment, gather those pieces together and reconnect with who Ms. No Drama Please IS! Remember, who you are and what you want in a partner — that has been lost to you for so long.

Yours Truly,
Mr. Positivity

Dear Mr. Positivity,

I am writing about young lady named Evelyn! She was
in foster care at the tender age of 11. Her mom was taken by
booze her dad by lack of concern, and determination.
All of her siblings are in foster care. She has a very
limited relationship with her foster mom. she is currently
attending University and is very intelligent. She carries
a full course load and has a part time job to give her
financial security. She is full of light and love.

Here is the concern. She is awake most nights all night.
She is visited by two young boy spirits. She sleeps with the light on
when she sleeps and more often then not waits for the Sun to come
back to shine her terror away.

She is my daughters room mate at University. They fell
to earth to be with each other in this capacity and have fallen
into a very guardian ship connection to one another and to Evelyn’s
terror.

Evelyn is precious. I have never seen her but I have heard many
stories from my daughter and I would love to offer her some
counsel that would give her relief from this miss understood journey.

I would like to honour you in advance for your consideration of this…
she is not of my body, but has taken a place in my heart that I cannot
explain or need to explain.

In light and love brother…

Michelle

First, nobody falls to earth. All of us that are here have made a conscious decision to be here and to experience the very things we question.

According to you Evelyn’s night terrors are connected to her midnight visitors … yes? She is afraid of seeing these boys that come to her, yes? However, these spirits have not done anything to wish her ill will or harm to either herself or your daughter, right?

It is normal for those glimpsing the Otherside to be apprehensive and in many cases fearful. This ultimately happens because we are taught that it is supposed to be a scary experience — the movies and TV portray it that way.

If, Evelyn sees the same two boys then there is either a connection to that University or to her specifically. It could be that she is seeing miscarried brothers, but from your letter it seems these spirits are coming from LOVE AND LIGHT.

Perhaps, these boys are two Spirit Guides …

My suggestion, Michelle, would be to have Evelyn ask them to either leave her be or what is it that they want, if anything.

If she only sees these two Spirits then there is a reason they are manifesting for her …

In doing either of the afore mentioned suggestions she should be able to sleep better

Thanks for Writing,

Mr. Positivity